Yesterday, I
had the opportunity to hold a three week old.
As the baby got passed around from one auntie or grandma to the next, I
was impressed to see the men also take turns.
Uncles, boyfriends, grandpas held this little baby with wide open
hearts, and it was a joy to watch. I
hadn’t seen the baby’s dad since he had run away from home at 16, all surly and
angry at the world and his parents. But
there he was, also with a wide open heart, smiling and at peace with
himself. I could tell that he wanted to
be in his baby boy’s life for the long haul, messy diapers, skinned knees and
all. He had made the transformation to
being a father that had a wide open heart for his boy.
This
transition is not easy for people, and men in specific. They are supposed to be as tough as Paul,
enduring tragedies and suffering without comment, being the strong silent
cowboy that rides off into the sunset.
Not exactly a wide open heart in that imagery. Nor does it transform the people around them
or make the world a better place. The
lone cowboy is one who solves his problems with a gun, and knows that because
he is truthful, his six-shooter will make justice come true. Unfortunately, we know that all too often
that is a lie. A police officer gets shot
while trying to deal with a racist man.
A congregation loses 9 members in a prayer service, and so on. Where do we find ways to help men have open
hearts without being ridiculed for appearing weak?
I think that
we can look at our gospel story for clues.
Jesus has been telling stories to his friends and followers. The fishermen let him use their boat as a
podium. These are rough and tumble guys
used to living hard lives. It was so
rough that If you ever get a chance to go to Israel, you will find a boat
discovered in 1986 that dates back to the time of Jesus. It’s 27 feet long and patched with 10 kinds
of wood to keep it afloat. These were
desperate times for the men, with the Romans moving in and overfishing.
Taxes meant
that it was hard to make ends meet, and many men went elsewhere to become
indentured servants if they became bankrupt.
Going across the Sea of Galilee would not have
been a big deal for these men, it is only 13 kilometers wide. But in another sense, it would have been a
very big deal. On the other side was
where there were Gentiles, those people who were not Jews. Gentiles would have been Romans, Egyptians,
Greeks, Phoenicians, and other foreigners.
Jesus wanted to go teach there?
What a disturbing idea! Somehow
they went along with it and took Jesus across.
There are
many similar movements where we are going to the other side in our own
day. The TRC has wrapped up its
deliberations, and Dr. Marie Wilson has asked us to accept the historical
evidence of the abuses of Residential Schools.
Wab Kinew challenges us to rethink our stereotypes as a way of healing
our country. Theo Fleury dares to speak
of the treatment he got at the hands of his hockey coach.
All too
often, calls to rethink our ideas and move to the other side, to open our
hearts wide, lead to backlashes. General
Tom Lawson spoke about men’s behaviors being part of who they are. A young man took a gun into a black
congregation. And the Government of
Canada is still not interested in finding out what is happening to aboriginal
women who have gone missing in Canada.
Backlashes
lead to storms that blow up when we least expect it, storms inside our hearts,
storms in the media, storms in our families, storms in our industry or our
jobs, storms in our community. They
leave us feeling bewildered, confused, and sometimes even scared. The disciples are terrified, and are sure
that they are going to drown in the attempt to do something new. Jesus only makes their confusion
greater. They are familiar with the
story of Jonah and the whale where a storm comes up because Jonah is going the
wrong way.
God
convinces Jonah that he must turn around and go where God wanted. Maybe the fishermen thought the storm was
God’s way of saying, ‘turn around, Jesus, and stick to your own side.” So when
Jesus wakes up, he doesn’t say, like Jonah did, “let’s turn the boat around,
let’s pray for God to forgive us. No, he
talks to the storm the way they imagine God talked to the waters and wind in
the days of creation itself. Who is this
Jesus, who is even greater than Jonah?
The last
verse says that ‘they were filled with great awe”, but the Greek is phobon
megan, or mega phobia! Discovering that
we are being called to do hard work is scary.
Some never manage it, like the shooter in South Carolina. We are called to re-examine our racist
assumptions, our skewed sense of history, and even our national identity by the
TRC.
Dr. Wilson
said that it’s not by feeling shame or guilt or trying to fix each other that
we will change Canadian History, it’s by how we treat each other, day to day
even when we are terrified. We can
become honorable and loving fathers, mothers, uncles, aunts and neighbors
dedicated to supporting all the children of Canada. We can be become a country where racism and
cultural genocide is a thing of the past.
We can call for a place where education and healthcare is funded equally
for all. And we can learn to see Jesus
in the boat beside us, opening our hearts wide, smoothing our waters and
calming our storm. May it be so for us
all.
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