Flip Flop Followers

Summertime and the footwear is easy.  Flip flops are standard issue for beach days and city sidewalks alike.  They are everywhere.

In our gospel reading today (Matthew 16:21–28 for those of you reading my blog), Peter is again front and centre.  Three weeks ago, he sank like a stone in front of Jesus and all his friends.  Last week he became the foundational rock for building a new community of love.  This week he becomes a boulder attempting to trip Jesus up.  What a major flip flop Peter does.  Will the real Peter stand up?  Is he a leader in training, or is he a theological disaster?  Is he a great follower or a great temptation? Is he a good guy or a serious threat to the mission Jesus is on? 

What gives, Peter?  What’s with all the flip flopping?

Just like flip flops allow sand to irritate our feet, Peter’s comment seems to irritate Jesus to the point of name-calling.  Just like flip flops are not good for Alberta winters, Peter’s comments leave Jesus cold.  Just like flip flops are not great for ballerinas trying to swirl like tops, Peter has put his foot in his mouth and doesn’t know which way to turn.

The response, “Get behind me, Satan!” has often been interpreted as a shaming in front of the rest of the disciples.  What if it was different?  What if it is not ‘get out of my way’?  What if it is, “fall in line behind me and listen.”  That puts a completely different spin on what Jesus says, less heated annoyance and more reflection, more thoughtfulness, more invitation to self-examination and self-reflection.  Maybe even a touch of ‘mind your own business’.

The teachings that follow challenge self-centeredness and replaces it with mission.  The world is full of people who know they are right, who are the rule police for a community, a faith group, a family, a town, a culture, a whole country.  We are good at knowing who is wrong and it’s never us.  We fixate on scarcity and hoarding.  We fixate on me first.  Leadership gurus call this “Below the Line” attitudes.  Below the line thinking can be inflexible, certain, and often about controlling others.  It can a form of bullying, where one person wants to have power over others.  It can unconsciously look for ways to be the smartest person in the room.  It is natural, it’s how we survived saber-toothed tigers and stampeding bison.  In the long run, it can leave people cynical, selfish and lonely.  It is an addiction that is just as destructive in its way as illegal drugs.

All addictions are harmful, whether it’s a craving to be the leader like Peter, or gambling or drugs or shopping apps, or food or the determination to be right, or to save for a rainy day that will never come.  I think the addiction to below the line attitudes and thoughts is what Jesus is calling out.  People who put themselves first rather than God get into all kinds of troubles.  That’s why the beginning of 12 step recovery programs is to admit that we are powerless.

Would it surprise you to learn that admitting powerlessness is also the starting point for finding solutions to the world drug problem?  Drug addiction rates are terrible right now, and vary from half a percent of the population in countries like Slovakia and Portugal to 4% of the United States, the worst in the world.  Canada is sitting at about 2%.

The United Nations decided to look at the situation in ways that are above the line.  It researches constantly, does not assume it has the perfect answer for every country, and looks for tangible, measurable results that are showing repeatable significant reduction.  In other words, it keeps an open mind and asks questions.  Some of the things the UN has found is that countries like Portugal who have low addiction rates, focus on harm reduction.  Cold turkey does not work.  Abstinence, while a great goal, is not the starting point, harm reduction is.  The UN found that every individual has had a different path into addiction and will have a different path out.  It recognizes that countries that are most successful look at drug addiction as a healthcare problem.  Countries that start prevention programs in schools around the age of 12, which is when most users start, show significant impact on the number of kids staying clean, succeeding in school and having positive mental health. Family supports are crucial.  Countries that decriminalize the use of drugs and provide healthier, cheaper supplies, disrupt the profit level of organized crime and also noticeably reduce the rate of petty crimes.  That’s why countries like Portugal have had such a drop in addiction rates. The expensive constant medical emergencies and policing actions and court caseloads also drop dramatically with harm reduction programs.

The Un says that the illicit drug trade generates hundreds of billions of dollars per year, though estimates vary.  Drug cultivation, trafficking, and use also impact the environment through deforestation and other land-use change as well as air, land and water pollution.  The cost of failing to tackle drug use disorders is steep – over half a million deaths and 28 million healthy years of life lost due to disability and premature deaths in 2021. Just one in 12 people with drug use disorders received any treatment in 2023.  Our provincial government’s push to have involuntary treatment centres goes directly against the UN’s research because the number one factor for success is for the addict to choose it voluntarily and honestly.  One person told me that treatment only works if it focuses on physical, mental, spiritual and emotional recovery.  Another person said that even after 10 years of sobriety, there isn’t an hour or a day where they do not feel the temptation of escaping the hardships of their life through a needle.

Jesus points to another way.  An above-the-line way.  A way that takes seriously that we can’t escape our painful crosses in life, but neither do we have to bear them alone. Paul‘s words, don’t repay evil with evil, don’t be condescending, don’t seek revenge, are also calls to live above the line.  Feed and love our enemies. Tall order.

How does that look in real life?  I am reminded of a certain 80 year old millionaire who told her neighborhood 12-year-olds that she would give them $500 each if they and their teammate graduated from Grade 12 together.  In that school, the drop-out rate went from 33% to 6%! She gave millions of dollars of books to preschoolers.  She donated money to fund research into the Moderna Covid vaccine.  She spoke out against hatred of the 2sLGTBQIA+ community, saying “it ain’t Christian to hate, we all gotta start loving more instead of all this judging.”  Unlike some millionaire 80 year olds, she didn’t flip flop between love and hate, she didn’t pretend to be a Christian one moment while locking up children the next.  You know who I’m talking about.  She lived a very humble and loving Christian life, above the line, brave and committed and curious, open to learning what she could to help build a more resilient world.  She lived out these values that we read in our scriptures, and she did her best to live one day at a time, caring for her neighbors, and following Jesus.  We can’t have a much better role model for leaving the world a better place than Dolly. May we remember and honor her by doing the same. May we learn to follow Jesus rather than ourselves.  May we remember to ask questions, and may we learn not to flip flop over who is in control.  But to consistently remember the God of Love is the bedrock of our faith.

Temptations

Have you heard the old cliché, “Hurt people hurt people”? Sometimes people are not even aware of the hurt they do to others, or they justify it, brush it off, dismiss it.  Fine and dandy, but when they start to think that they are justified, or even that the people they hurt deserve it, or even worse, that the people they hurt aren’t really, we have a situation that can spiral out of control.  Whether it’s addictions to violent video games like Roblox or sharing toxic claims about immigrants or trans people, or taking pride in insulting people who have a different political perspective than us, it’s easy to go from polite Canadians apologizing to everyone for everything, to becoming a keyboard warrior or someone who cuts people off in traffic and waves the finger at other drivers.  Hurt people hurt people. 

It doesn’t help that we live in a world that glorifies violence.  Dr. Walter Wink talks about the myth of redemptive violence and it’s often the subtle theme of Disney movies.  The princess is captured by an evil person, often a woman who is the opposite of the princess, who is defeated by a brave prince who is willing to fight the dragon or the sea witch or whatever the evil figure is. Violence protects the innocent and maintains their sweetness and goodness because they can’t do it themselves. 

We all like to think of ourselves as the heroes of our own life stories and turn anyone who obstructs us as the villain in our lives.  We can get fixated on what ‘They’ are doing to mess up our lives, or what we can do to get even with “them”.  We don’t realize that in our righteous anger, we are hurting someone else who then sees us as the villains in their own lives.  One psychologist once said, “It’s like the world is in a massive competition to prove who is the biggest victim and it’s always me, and the biggest villain is always the other.  The myth of redemptive violence teaches us to hit back, to seek revenge, to rage and it goes back to the Babylonian creation myth.  It paints humans as being born from violence, when two parent gods conspire together to kill their noisy offspring.  The younger gods get together and kill the father and mother.  From the blood of the murdered gods come all of creation, including humans. Contrast that story of family violence with our creation story which talks about God shaping the world and calling it good.  It’s a profound rebuttal of violence of any kind as it points to humans created in love, not in war. 

Then there’s Jesus, who goes up against the ultimate bad guy, Satan, in the temptations in the desert.  Jesus doesn’t beat Satan to death.  Jesus doesn’t shoot laser beams out of his eyes.  He doesn’t pull out a missile launcher or yell and scream or post scathing insults on Facebook.  Jesus instead calmly quotes scripture at Satan, and refuses Satan’s clever tests.

“Do you want security”, Satan asks, “the power to never go hungry, to turn rocks into food, to turn whatever you have too much of into whatever you have not enough of?” How many of us have bowed to the temptation of taking shortcuts, helping ourselves to things that are easily in reach?  Most of us have never been tempted to shop lift or to steal from a neighbor.  But we all would like quick fixes for our problems, and Satan tempts Jesus to go for the quick fix, the simple solution.  That is the path to addictions, whether it’s bargain shopping at Temu or having more craft supplies than we can ever possibly use.  Accumulate stuff, hoard stuff, save stuff because we fear not having enough.

“Do you want safety”, Satan asks, “the ability to never be hurt by anyone ever again?” How many of us have become fearful of leaving our houses, of trying something new, of being hurt?  We surround ourselves with air bags and security cameras, but they won’t guarantee our safety.  They won’t protect us from being hurt, of sliding on the ice and breaking an arm or twisting a back.  We might try to hide in our bedrooms to avoid any risks, but it is not healthy.  Jesus accepted that part of life is getting hurt, stubbing your toe, hearing an opinion different than your own.

“Do you want control?”  Satan asks, “the ability to fix or save or correct anyone or anything that you think isn’t right?”  Control is a sneaky temptation.  It masquerades as wanting respect or wanting everyone else to measure up to our standards.  It says, “I don’t have to listen to anyone else’s opinions.  I’m right, I know I’m right and that is the end of it.” It leads to judgmentalism and bossiness.  It leads to wanting to be the loudest person in the room, drowning out other people’s opinions.  It says, “I have the right to be angry, rude, loud, and to throw my weight around.” 

Jesus rejected all that.  Jesus focused on God, and the teachings of the prophets that told stories of God’s compassionate generosity to widows and orphans, the sick and the lonely, the oppressed and the poor.  Jesus was determined to chose listening and healing, not bullying and being right or demanding perfection in others.  He rejected the dance of superhero violence even though it would cost him his life.

We are starting Lent, a time of self-reflection as we remember Jesus travelling to Jerusalem where he would be killed.  We talk about giving up chocolate or computer games, but we don’t talk about letting go of our need for control, our need for safety, our need for stuff.  What if this Lent we spent time in prayer for our healing.  Hurt people hurt people. We are all hurt.  But people who choose to ask God for healing will find that healing people heal people.  We are all on the journey to find healing.  May we find through healing through prayer and action and courage.  Amen.

Respecting the Community

Some Sundays the scripture reading is as exciting as a Marvel Movie!  Can you imagine if Jesus was Doctor Strange and John the Baptist was Tony Stark, what an intense meeting it would have been?  Two powerful men with powerful missions coming together to do powerful work for the Glory of God.  This story is describing the same incident that we read last week, John and Jesus meeting at the banks of the Jordan River.  John is baptising people who are confessing their brokenness and looking for a new way to be in relationship with God.  It could have been a civil war between John and Jesus, maybe Captain America instead of Dr. Strange. it could have been a below-the-line power struggle between the two, it could have been a competition to see who was more right than the other, who was the angriest, who was the loudest person in the room.  Instead, it became a time to witness to the power of following Jesus.  John told his followers to join Team Jesus, and they did.  They even brought in new members, and pretty soon Jesus had gone from no followers to a dedicated team of twelve disciples eager to share their excitement with everyone they met.

Talking about our faith and trying to bring in new people is something many churches do.  They train their members in how to recruit people, they give them pamphlets and workshops and roll play exercises and demonstrations.  That’s not something the United Church is particularly comfortable with or used to. We didn’t do that because we were the biggest denomination other than the Roman Catholic Church.  We had at one time more churches across Canada than Tim Hortons.  We gave more to Haiti earthquake emergency relief than all the customers getting their double-doubles.  This was happening even though church attendance was already dropping.  This was happening even when it seemed like the mega churches were growing faster than Starbucks into Canada. This was happening when more and more independent bookstores were closing because they couldn’t compete with Amazon even before Covid made so many things go online.  We didn’t know how to invite our neighbors, but we had all experienced the knock on the door from missionaries in suits or gotten the pamphlet in the mail describing the joys of Heaven and the dangers of Hell.  We also were being bombarded with people wanting us to believe in crop circles or aliens building the pyramids or satanists running daycares in Saskatchewan towns.  Televangelists seemed to end up with private jets or universities, then get in the news for abuse.  That builds distrust for all Christian institutions. Religion gets a bad rap for wars, colonialism, you name it, but condemning all religion is like saying we won’t use fire because of the evacuation of Fort McMurray.  How do we heat our houses?  How do we cook if we have gas stoves?  Condemning all religion fails to remember that it inspires great art, great music, great social movements like civil rights, public education and affordable healthcare.  People who attend church regularly are less lonely, their anxiety levels drop, their sense of resilience is increased, and they feel empowered to work together towards positive social good. Women wouldn’t have gotten the vote in Canada without church ladies getting together in Alberta who cared about poverty and family violence.

There’s a right way and a wrong way to invite people to church.  We have to know our big Why. Bums in pews is honest but not healthy or trustworthy. It's not good news for our neighbors, it's based on our scarcity not God's abundance. It exploits newcomers' innocence.  Someone said, “bringing people to church so that they can be busier and poorer is not Christian, but often it’s really why we want newcomers.” Some call it vampire evangelism, bring them in and suck them dry.  On the flip side, when we remember how much we have been transformed by coming to church regularly, it’s rude not to tell people about it.  One minister in the US wrote this week that “When we lose religious and spiritual community, we lose a lot of our power to make collective change. Research suggests that religious behavior and belonging are associated with greater civic and political participation, financial giving, and volunteering. It also indicates that while solitary meditation is good for the soul, it is small group participation that correlates most strongly with social impact. Weekly worship attendance is also strongly associated with increased civic activity…” She added that service clubs and other organisations don’t offer transformation, resiliency and morals the way church does, and it’s part of why her country is in so much turmoil.

Our Northern Spirit Growth Animator, Jordan Cantwell told us to remember that it’s scary for people to come to church.  Every church says it welcomes all but often the reality is different.  Cantwell said, “We assume everyone knows who we are, what we do and that they are welcome. We are welcome to walk into a mosque but don't feel comfortable.” She said gentle humble openness, listening to their questions and concerns, sharing your story of transformation honestly and prayfully is key.  People won’t have a transformative experience if they are going to be told they should go to church, they should be ashamed if they don’t go to church or they are to blame for all the bad things in their lives if they don’t go to church.  Instead, try RESPECT:

R: Recognize - Acknowledge the worth of others.  We are all God’s Children

E: Empathize - Understand and care about the feelings of others.  Jesus came to listen and heal and we are called to do the same.

S: Support - Offer help and encouragement.  Our creed says that God works in us and others by the Spirit.  Support is a team sport and God is part of our team!

P: Promote - Advocate for the rights and dignity of others. The United Church calls this “Daring Justice” we are to seek justice and resist evil.

E: Engage - Involve others in meaningful ways.  We are to love and serve others as part of our healing journey.

C: Communicate - Share thoughts and feelings openly.  Proclaim Jesus crucified and risen, our judge and our hope.

T: Trust - Build and maintain trust in relationships.  This takes deep spirituality and more teamwork. 

Jesus and John trusted and respected each other like Tony Stark and the other Avengers eventually did.  John’s disciples trusted and respected John when he told them to follow Jesus.  Simon Peter trusted his brother when the brother shared his excitement about finding the Messiah.  When we build relationships based on trust and respect, relationships with each other, our neighbors and our God, the invitations will come naturally and from a place of inspiration, encouragement, resilience and healing.  Who wouldn’t want an invitation to that?