Empowered leadership

Did you know that the baptism of Jesus is one of the few power stories that are in all four of the Gospels?  Matthew has the longest version, Mark, Luke and even that wild gospel John has it.  To put this into context, Matthew is the only gospel with the Magi bearing gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh, Luke is the only gospel with the manger and shepherds, Mark and John skip Bethlehem altogether but all four have an account of this meeting of Jesus and John.  The gospel of Matthew has John asking the question that has stumped many theologians ever since, why did Jesus come to be baptised by John?  John recognized that Jesus was able to do more than he could.  John baptised with water, Jesus would baptise with the Spirit.

Two great men, two great passionate believers in God’s mission and God’s message.  Two powerful speakers who knew how to talk so people would listen, and even more importantly, so that people would act.  That lives would be changed not just in little ways, but in ways that would have everyone believing that the Community of God was at hand, and that this meeting could and did change the course of history.

What was powerful in this encounter between these two strong leaders is the gentleness and graciousness in which they met each other.  As Robbie and Marilyn showed us, they chose humbleness, and even more than humbleness, they recognized each other’s leadership, and get this!  They refused to take the other’s leadership away from them.

John said in fact, wait a minute, Jesus, you are my leader.  And Jesus said, we lead together as God sees appropriate.

Wow.  Can you imagine if the President of the United States and the President of Iran, Hassan Rouhani, sat down with a similar attitude?  Well, we lead our countries together and I respect your leadership.  Wouldn’t that be a world-changing event?  Certainly it was here. 

How can we become more like them?  I have said that my goal these next few months leading up to my sabbatical is to creatively empower God-centred leaders.  That is easy to say, but not so easy to do of course.  Leadership is not just for the person who wears the robes and it doesn’t happen just in the pulpit.  It happens in your homes, at the curling league or the classroom, the hockey rink and the knitting group.  It happens at Rotary club or Lions or Toastmasters or at the Whispering Hills Country jam session.  It happens at the library, the swimming pool, PVL, the community band and Heartwood concerts.

It happens every time we encounter another human being and choose to recognize and respect their leadership.  You see, John could have responded to Jesus in one of two very typical ways.  He could have said, “Push off, You!  Find yourself another River!  Find yourself another ritual than water.  Go get people to have a dust bath or enter a monastery or fast in the wilderness.  I don’t care what you do, just do it elsewhere!  This is my turf and who do you think you are, muscling in on my act!  I’m the boss here, what I say goes, and you just need to either be one of my followers or get out of my hair.”  Such arrogance can lead to isolation and loneliness.

Psychologists like Terry Real call this aggrandization.  It’s when someone is sure they are better than everyone else, and they will tell them this too.  They don’t care who they step on or how they hurt others.  We all know leaders who are accused of this, and we all like to point fingers at people who we think are aggrandized, “oh look at them swaggering around, who do they think they are, they are no better than the rest of us”.  And boy do we like it when they fall from grace.  Politicians know that when they run for the highest role, president or prime minister, they won’t last as the head of their party for long if they lose.

The other response John could have had when he saw Jesus, is he could have gotten firmly stuck in the ‘I’m not worthy to untie his sandals’ bit.  “Oh me, I’m not good enough, I think I’ll quit while I’m ahead, I’m a terrible person, yada yada yada.”  What Terry Real calls shame.  It can lead to depression, addictions and worse.

A third response to someone’s leadership is to flip flop between grandiosity, ‘you’re not good enough’ and shame ‘I’m not good enough’.  The faster and the harder we flip between these two extremes, the more damage we can do to relationships and our own mental health.

One word that sums this up is contempt.  Having Contempt for others leads to grandiosity.  Having contempt for ourselves leads to shame.  Contempt is not a healthy approach and does not lead to a changed world.  Jesus and John model a different approach, one that pulls away from the flip flop of emotional reaction, and nurtures healthy leadership.  That approach is respect.  John deeply respects the call Jesus has, and Jesus respects John’s role in calling people to account for their actions.

If we struggle with grandiosity, it’s time to look for things we can respect in the people around us.  If we struggle with shame, we need to remember things we can respect about ourselves.  Make a list.  Record what you notice.  And remember, it’s always about love.  Love yourself, love others, love God.  Loving God breaks us out of our flip-flops, our defensiveness, and our arrogance.  When we practise loving ourselves and one another, God sends down a dove and says, ‘these are my beloved children with whom I am well pleased.  Love is what empowers our leadership and our lives.  God’s love for us, and our love for God and each other.  May it be so for us all!