There’s nothing more annoying some days than losing my poppy. It’s gotten to be a bit of an obsession with me. I keep my poppies from year to year, stuck to a cork board so I won’t go without. I have tried bending the pin. I have horded poppies. I have checked as I’m leaving a place to make sure I haven’t lost them. All because I fear the censure and judgement of people who assume that my lost poppy is a sign of disrespect to veterans, that it is unpatriotic or unCanadian. And it’s not all in my imagination either. There have been times when people who are normally nice, kind people have let loose a diatribe or scathing remark about my empty collar without asking if I lost it. They assumed bad intentions and they judged my character and they let me have it.
I’m sure they, like the
religious scholars Jesus was talking about, had good intentions. We do need to remember the dreadful cost of
war, the dreadful consequences when totalitarian dictators brainwash voters
with us vs them rhetoric. But I think we
do need to be careful when we hear people put rules ahead of love.
There’s a house in Edmonton
that was set up for moms who wanted to get off the streets and get sober. Some were fleeing the drug trade, some were
running away from a toxic childhood home, or bad boyfriends. Some had lived under bridges, and some had
couch surfed. The ones who had children
under 5 had nowhere to turn. If they
went to a homeless shelter, they would lose their children to the system. And they all had to be sober for three months
before they could access social service programs and treatment centres. Three months can be a long time when you
don’t know where to find a safe haven.
When I first visited, I was told that the residents might be afraid of
me. Because I was white, I looked like a
social worker. And social workers took
children and babies away. They would
even show up in the maternity wards before the moms were released! The rules were more important than love but
the group home made love more important than rules. Whatever happened, everyone was committed to
keeping the children safe. That was
their mission, their purpose, and they were committed to that rule of love.
Generosity is the same. If we are being told to be generous because
of the rules, instead of love, it, as Paul says, it’s extortion. That is what Jesus was pointing out when he
showed the poor widow giving her two cents.
She was giving for love, but the hypocritical leaders of the church were
pushing her to such giving because of the rules. We learned last week that you can’t get to
heaven in a rocking chair. Well, a visa
card or fat check book won’t do it either.
It’s important to be
intentional and loving with our money, just as we are called to be intentional
and loving with our words and our actions.
When we think things through carefully with intention, there’s a fancy
word for that, discernment, which is a spiritual practice. It’s when we choose how we use money and
where we use money. Society doesn’t want
us to take time to think about purchases, they want us to spend
emotionally. They want us to grab that
extra chocolate bar at the till, become addicted to the shopping channel, spend
money on the latest eye-catching gismo we see on the internet, or the coolest
thing out of the latest Hammacher catalogue.
I have just got to get that glow in the dark motion sensor toilet seat
that doubles as a nightlight! Really?
We are called to remember that
we can’t get to heaven on such an amazing throne, available for the low price
of 16.99, with free gift wrap included, even if we do qualify for free
shipping. That is not about love of God,
love of neighbor, love of self. On the
other hand I don’t think we should be like Elon Musk, who when the U.N. claimed
that 2% of his wealth would solve world hunger, retorted that he didn’t believe
the U.N. could save millions of lives with such a donation. His cynicism is a way of justifying his $311
billion dollars. And what about folks
who spend 250 to 300 thousand dollars to get a ride into space? So maybe we can get to the heavens with a big
enough bank account, but where’s our love, our ministry, our mission, our
caring for God’s neighbor in that?
Compared to Jeff Bezos or Elon
Musk, we may feel more like the poor widow who only has two cents to rub
together. But we do have a false sense
of our own economic status when we only compare ourselves to millionaires or
billionaires. Compared to many around
the world who live on $5 a day, we are wealthy too. So how do we find a healthy relationship with
money that falls into our Christian ethic without either giving away everything
we own in guilt or hording everything we have in fear?
Nathan Duncan teaches church
goers that most of us fall into one of three categories: we are savers or
spenders or sharers. He encourages us to
think about where we need to save more, where we could spend more, and how we
could share more in a healthy balance.
We should never be like the Widow woman giving her last coins to the
church, nor should we be like the hypocrites who demand money from people so
they can wear their fancy outfits and show off in church. When we share, let us do so with careful
discernment and love. When we save, let
us do so with careful discernment and love.
When we spend, let us do so with love. Love, not rules.
Intentions matter. I intend no disrespect to veterans when my
poppy slips off my coat. The social
workers I’m sure didn’t intend to traumatize the moms but make sure the babies
were safe. But let’s err on the side of love in all that we do, because we are
loved and called to love in everything we do.
Rules can be loving and health-giving, but ultimately, God calls us to
healthy relationships and balance, even healthy relationships with money. By discerning and loving, we can make healthy
choices that benefit both ourselves and our neighbors, and helps bring God’s
heaven a step closer to earth for us all.
May we work together to build Heaven on Earth for all God’s children. Amen.
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