Our dessert was freshly hand-picked cherries that we
had harvested from the orchard. Amber, not quite 2 years old, was biting a
cherry then fingerpainting the wall with the juice on her fingers!
I don’t remember how I reacted other than cleaning her
hands as well as the wall and moving the cherries away from her. Not just to limit her artwork, but also because
too many cherries can cause havoc on our digestive systems. Having self-control around cherries is hard!
I admire the self-control Jesus exhibited in this
story of the Sadducees. If we read all
of Luke 20, we would hear the religious scholars testing Jesus with conundrums and
puzzles. Paying taxes, John the
Baptist’s ritual in the Jordan River, and more.
This question about seven marriages was a mental experiment, rather like
the more famous Schrodinger’s Cat in a box.
It was also a very divisive topic between the Sadducees and the
Pharisees, subject of a vigorous. They pulled
Jesus into the debate, suggesting a ridiculous scenario that the Sadducees
thought would end any discussion of an afterlife. It reads oddly to our current culture, this
is not seven brides for seven brothers, but one bride. If we look at it from the culture of
Deuteronomy, we can understand it better.
The world of Deuteronomy was one of tough survival where the tribe was
the focal point of every individual’s identity. And with no rrsps, tffs or pension plans,
widows could be in danger of starving to death.
The patriarchal culture didn’t help either. With a male-centric society, being
disconnected from a male family member to protect her was dangerous for a
widow. So, they came up with Levirate
marriage which was designed to protect widows and ensure every male ended up
with a male heir to inherit their estate and continue the tribe’s
existence. I’m very glad it is no longer
a part of Canadian society. It does
exist in other parts of the world where there is a high level of mortality in
both adults and children as well as a patriarchal culture.
But this was meant to be a trick question with an
obvious answer. The Sadducees expected
Jesus to say that the wife would obviously not be married to anyone because an
afterlife is ridiculous. The Pharisees
hoped Jesus would somehow find a way out of the trap. Jesus said in effect that the riddle was
focusing on the wrong question. God’s
children do not concern themselves with who possesses what, or who is married
or who belongs to another. Ownership,
entitlement, even sex is not what God’s children should be focused on.
And God’s children are not to worry about fads,
fashions and alarmists who only promote emotional reactions to life’s
challenges. 2 Thessalonians says, “don't become easily agitated or
disturbed by some prophecy, report or letter falsely attributed to us… Let no
one deceive you, in any way. Stick to the traditions you received from us,
either by word of mouth or by letter.”
Easier said than done.
It’s hard to know who to trust when we get bombarded by scammers who phone
or text us out of the blue. How do we know what to believe any more? The United
Church has inherited a simple tool that has been around for a long time, with
roots in Greek philosophy and Hebrew faith.
It is to use logic, experience, history and faith to discern what is
best. It generally works well. Logic is a good first step. Learning from others’ experiences as well as
our own is important too – I hear that people get texts claiming to be me
asking them to send a money order and I never do that. Sharing this experience can help keep people
safe.
History both personal and global is also important. Orhan Pamuk wrote a book about a fictional Cholera
epidemic in Turkey and how that was written before Covid 19, yet it was very
predictive of how Covid 19 impacted our society because he knew his history.
Logic, experience, history and faith can help us
unravel tricky issues like Jesus did with the Sadducee puzzle. They can help us build our resilience in
times of challenge and unravel complex issues.
They can help us look at situations more calmly, and they can help us
develop self-control instead of being constantly shaken and alarmed as
Thessalonians describes.
If self-control is a gift of God, it can challenge how
we look at others and ourselves. This is
at the heart of the debate around homelessness in Athabasca, for example. We are not scared of people who are currently
experiencing temporary housing shortage, but we are very nervous about mentally
ill folks who act impulsively or illogically.
If we look at them as people who have poorly developed self-regulation,
will we have more compassion and understanding of them? People assume that
everyone has self-control. But the more
we learn about neurodiversity, addictions and the brain, the more we must
challenge that assumption. Recovering
alcoholics and addicts say that only when they let go of the delusion of their
self-control can they find their Higher Power helping them grow real self-control.
The
Good news is that self-control can be grown with patience and understanding, no
matter our age or our neurodiverse brains.
It is a gift that is free for the asking. My daughter no longer paints with cherry
juice on the kitchen wall. She has
learned to paint on canvases, the bigger the better! She has also learned to
eat cherries with self-control. Jesus
modelled self-control, nurturing it in himself and others and we can too, with
faith, hope and kindness as our guide.
Thanks be to God for these gifts of the Spirit at work in our lives!
“Homestead” by Amber Rosborough, 2022 in mixed media, not cherry juice!
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