September 08, 2026

It ain’t Christian to Hate

Dolly Parton once famously said, “It ain’t Christian to hate” and sometimes it seems like
Christians challenge that assumption.
  Some preachers get excited about people in minority groups who they see taking away rights and freedoms and resources from those who feel entitled to privalege, without examining the actual facts, and before you know it, they’re saying things that don’t connect to today’s scripture, especially when Paul said that we are bound to love our neighbor as ourselves.  What a lofty goal.  Therefore, Christians have perfect communities that are havens for healing and caring and serving our neighbors.  Right? Well, hopefully.

Jesus wanted everyone to get along but knew it would not be easy.  Human beings have a hard time communicating their wants and needs or even knowing what their wants and needs are.  One image that is often used is the iceberg.  Our conscious selves are like the part of the iceberg that float above the water.  But that part of the iceberg is not what sank the Titanic.  It’s the part under the water, the subconscious, that causes strife and pain.    And when two big icebergs collide, it can affect things for miles.  This year, one iceberg threatened a group of islands at the south pole as it was 3500 square kilometres across!  A polar research centre had to be evacuated, and the iceberg was watched by satellite for months.  Icebergs crashing are serious things.

Jesus didn’t want us to avoid calling out iceberg crashes and conflict.  He didn’t want us to pretend that we were all sweetly cooperative.  He wanted us to protect our sacred community from oppression and manipulation.  Presbyterians have a saying that they are to “take away all occasion for tyranny”.  Church must not empower bad behavior that, like a massive iceberg, crash into everyone.

We crash together over differing values, differing opinions, differing needs, differing politics.  We crash together over control and power.  And if that power is power over, that control is control over, not power with or control with, we forget to be disciples practicing love and healing.  We crash our subconscius icebergs into one another.  We go below the line, where we make decisions based on fear and scarcity.  Fear is everywhere.  Fear is fueling our political anxieties.  Fear is being used to feed conflict leading up to the Referendum.  Fear of immigrants, fear of indigenous rights, fear of judges, fear of losing our human rights to someone far away that we don’t trust.  Fear that is subconscious, uncontrolled, and undisciplined, is a cancer that can kill communities of faith or even societies. Reverend Henri Nouwen put it this way:

Hardly a day [happens] without our experience of inner or outer fears, anxieties, apprehensions, and preoccupations. These...powers have pervaded every part of our world to such a degree that we can never fully escape them. Still it is possible not to belong to these powers, not to build our dwelling place among them, but to choose the house of love as our home. This choice is made not just once and for all but by living a spiritual life, praying at all times and thus breathing God's breath. Through the spiritual life we gradually move from the house of fear to the house of love. –(Henri J. M. Nouwen, p 24, creating change)

Fear is not Christian.  Jesus taught us to move from the house of crashing icebergs to a house of love, a way that protected the dignity of every individual in the conflict.  Talk it out, one on one, first.  If that doesn’t work, take a witness who also saw the situation.  And if that isn’t enough, encourage that individual who is frozen into patterns of fear and anger, to move on to a place where they can melt their underwater ice without hurting the Christian community.  Of course, if there is violence or sexual abuse, one on one isn’t safe, and isn’t what Jesus intended.  These guidelines are for situations where nothing illegal, immoral or life-threatening is happening.  In those situations, Jesus wanted clear consequences for people living in the house of fear, people frozen into habits of anger. If the whole community agrees, they are out.  End of story?

Not quite.

Jesus wanted folks to treat the now outsider not as someone to be shunned permanently, but someone who needed to be treated as a potential new member.  The outsider still needed to be loved and prayed over.  Because when he said, “declare these people to be like gentiles and tax collectors,” he was talking to people who had seen him preaching to gentiles, who were rubbing elbows with tax collectors, who had watched outsiders become insiders, who had seen the excluded become excited to become included.  He was talking to his disciples who had eaten with little Zacchius, and walking beside Matthew, both of which had been tax collectors.  In other words, treat them like folks that need to learn the good news.  To remind them that they no longer need to live in a frozen house of fear, they no longer need to be unconsciously crashing into anyone they feel like.  They no longer need to be addicted to anger and scarcity. That is not the Christian way of love.  It impacts conversations outside the church too.

Last Wednesday evening, we gathered as Northern Spirit Region to learn about the upcoming Referendum.  We heard that the questions are written at a university or higher reading level.  They paint a picture of scarcity, where immigrants threaten jobs, healthcare and education.  They promote distrust of voters, they tease us with having more power and less accountability.  As one United Church staff person said, “The separatist [rhetoric] is an insult to Treaty covenants. And the whole thing is a distraction from and addition to the malicious targeting of transgender and disabled Albertans, education professionals, healthcare professionals and the whole system.”

If we are to love our neighbors as ourselves, we need to love refugees and immigrants.  We need to advocate for human rights for all, including for education and healthcare.  We need to advocate for treaty rights, and trans rights andrefuse to spread racist comments about first nations and 2sLGTBQIA+.  We need to help people think these questions through, and not just vote as others tell them, don’t vote like an iceberg, frozen into an easy answer.  We need to advocate for people to take the time to read and vote, whatever their position on the referendum and separation is.  Because the loving, brave thing to do is to remind everyone that we are not alone, we live in God’s world and we trust in God’s loving abundance. Fear is not the answer to the challenges of 2026.  Compassion and love and courage and truth is.  Loving our neighbours is the answer.  It is the eternal answer.  Let us commit to being a house of love that puts compassion and equality and respect at the heart of what it means to follow Christ.  Because, as Dolly said, “It ain’t Christian to hate.”  It is Christian to love!

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