December 31, 2024
Great Fear to Great Joy?
December 24, 2024
Rebel Mary full of?
Louise Penny writes of a portrait that one of her fictional characters paints. It is of an old woman who looks out, bitterly, cynically and tired. It is a painting of the foul-mouthed, rude and irrepressible Ruth Zardo, a main character in the Three Pines books, and she is painted to be Mary, mother of Jesus, a more unlikely portrait of Mary to ever be made.
It makes sense to see Mary as a woman who will know the harshness of life. Anyone who has gone through Good Friday knows how incredibly hard life can be. It’s one thing to have the hopes and joys that new moms have, it’s quite another thing to sustain that confidence for the long haul. The flush of innocent hope, the excitement of justice restored and equality being proclaimed to all, would have been heady. No wonder Luke wrote her singing of the world being turned upside down. And no wonder this is the only speech Luke reported from Mary. She doesn’t make a speech at the foot of the cross, she doesn’t make a speech on Easter Sunday or Pentecost Sunday. No, she kicks off the birth narrative, and we never hear of her again.
Which is sad, when you think about it, because Mary understood Jesus better than his disciples, from this reading. Jesus wasn’t meant to be a candy-coated, sugary sweet elf on a shelf kind of figurehead. He was meant to be a real rebel, someone who would turn the power structures of his day upside down with his calls for justice in the name of a loving God who wants widows and orphans to be taken care of and treated with dignity and respect. Mary understood that. She understood God’s plan would mean afflicting the comfortable and comforting the afflicted. She knew that love of those who are weak and powerless is not easy. It’s more than collecting jellycats to fill an emotional vacuum, it’s more than trying to prove you love your family through expensive presents, it’s more than trying to decorate the house better than Martha Stewart or pack amazing activities into the winter holidays guaranteed to make the kids misty-eyed when they remember it in years to come. We often get love wrong despite our best efforts.
One United Church person had a habit of writing songs about getting love wrong. He was an active member of the same United Church all his life. In fact the first time he ever sang in public was when he was 5, and the Sunday School class performed “I’m a Little Teapot” for the church. That same church was where his funeral was held, far from the pomp and circumstance of many other famous Canadian musicians. In fact, if he wasn’t touring or playing in Massey Hall, he was usually found singing in their church choir on a Sunday morning. His songs of love were memorable, intense, poignant and often full of pain. He had numerous marriages and relationships, and several children by different womeMan, and sometimes those complex relationships ended up inspiring his music. Songs of heartbreak, anger, betrayal and also humbleness; one of his most famous songs talked about him being the hero but heroes often fail. He sings, “I don’t know where we went wrong but the feeling’s gone and I just can’t get it back.” Love was a complex mystery to him, relationships were hard and family dynamics were not straightforward. He was married three times altogether, but the last time seemed to work out finally. In fairness, he did a much better job loving Canada. When other Canadians moved to the United States to become famous, he moved back to Canada after only a few years in California. That didn’t stop his songwriting, nor his growing fame. His music was covered by all kinds of people: Neil Young, Elvis Presley, Jerry Lee Lewis, Barbra Streisand, and Johnny Cash to name a few. Even in his 80’s he performed across Canada. People remember him as being kind and humble and compassionate; he was so loved that there is a sculpture of him in his home in Orillia Ontario. He even was the celebrity captain of the Toronto Maple Leafs in 1991–1992. He was a member of the Canadian Music Hall of Fame and the Canadian Country Music Hall of fame, and even had a Canadian stamp! CBC thinks he is the fifth best Canadian Song Writer, better than Bruce Cockburn but not quite as good as Leonard Cohen. He inspired countless young people to make music and keep loving our country. Some people said he was the first person that ever got them excited about Canadian history when he wrote songs about trains or shipwrecks. And when Gordon Lightfoot died, the legacy he left was one of love and respect.
Interesting that Lightfoot who knew first hand the challenges of love, never gave up on being a caring and kind person despite his personal heartbreak. Through all the ups and downs of grief and health issues, premature reports of his death, a stroke that had him having to learn to play guitar all over again, Gordon persisted in being humble and compassionate to the end.
I can imagine that Mary also persisted. Her vision of what the world needed was so crystal clear and compelling that it must have survived all the challenges of losing her beloved and gifted son. Maybe when Mary heard Luke ask her about her son, her soul again cried out with joy. The painting Louise Penny imagined of the old, embittered woman? She wrote that there’s a dot of white in Ruth’s eyes, the moment when her bitterness is transformed into hope. When she is reminded once again of her powerful vision and conviction and how they are turning the world towards justice. God is still at work, bringing change and love into the world. May we too feel our spirits sing as we remember God’s promise of justice to all!
December 17, 2024
Snakes Alive!
John is at it again. Lecturing, name calling, telling people
off. Calling them snakes! He doesn’t pull any punches. He lets them know in no uncertain terms that
God is not happy with the way humans are living their lives. They need to make some changes, he
demands. They are not living up to God’s
expectations and are letting down their part of the Covenant between the people
of Israel that came into being when Moses first showed up, that was behind the
story of why there are rainbows in the world.
God makes covenants, enters into partnership, wants to be in
relationship with troublesome humans who keep breaking their side of the
bargain. Then God connects with Isaiah
and sends a message that these broken covenants are not what God wants!
Today’s passage of Isaiah about
"the wrath of God" which results from these broken covenants, is
pointing to what all the scriptures have in common this Sunday. That many
people believe in the wrath of God. And while there are some folks who probably
should take this more seriously, like certain politicians, leaders of organized
crime syndicates, murderers, billionaires with their mega yachts who complain
of rising wages, people who start wars, scammers that phone at 6 in the morning
claiming that you need to pay a speeding ticket and the like, who could do with
a taste of God's wrath, most people are doing the best they can to get by. The
postal workers, the teachers and nurses, the cleaners and the cooks, the
typists and the professors, the car washers, the truck drivers and the grocery
clerks. How does the wrath of God help them when they are more afraid of the
wrath of their bosses? It's stunning to learn that those bosses are earning in
a single year what their average employee will earn in their lifetime. The CEO
of Tim Hortons earned $151.8 million dollars in 2022, including benefits and
other compensation. That's quite the gap between him and the donut server
earning $15.64 an hour, according to CBC reporting. So much so that when you
crunch the numbers, he is earning the same salary as about 5000 of his
employees combined. A poisonous snake who exploits humans as resources. Still
feel like having a double-double? What would John say about it? Probably what
he said to the tax collectors; stop with the greedy exploitation!
Believing in the wrath of God
is surprisingly common. Many people grew
up with the story that God has so much wrath towards us that God killed Jesus,
torturing his innocent son to death. The
idea of original sin or looking at images of Jesus bleeding on the cross, just
emphasizes this image of a wrathful God.
Too much anger though, and
people shrivel inside. Too much
negativity leads to stunted growth. Too
many put downs, accusations and guilt trips leave people stuck in apathy and anxiety. Many hurting souls give up hope. They turn to selfish ways, caring only about
themselves and their families. Or they turn to addictions to numb the pain of
never being good enough. People who are trapped in this kind of self-hatred
live in constant fear of God’s wrath.
They turn to gurus, psychics, televangelists and charlatans but they do
not find comfort.
If only someone would read the
words of Isaiah to them. Isaiah, who
heard God saying, “Comfort, oh comfort my people, speak tenderly to them, and
tell them that their day of pardon has come.”
This is not an angry God. And in
today’s reading, God is the one to turn away from wrath. God is the one that provides comfort. God is the one that saves the people, God is
the one that protects and strengthens. God
is the one who helps refugees sing a new song in a strange land, and God is the
one who brings joy.
Joy comes in surprising
ways. The amazing and prolific writer,
C. S. Lewis, talked about this surprising nature of God’s comfort and joy. In his book, “Surprised by Joy”, he wrote
about being a dyed in the wool atheist happy to focus on only the things he
could touch or taste or smell or hear or see.
And yet, when he heard music, when he recited a poem, when he saw a
sunset on a walk, when he read a fairy tale, when he saw a work of art, he
would get a joyful emotion that he couldn’t explain away. The surprises slowly and surely baptized his imagination
and seduced him into rejoining the faith of his childhood. He abandoned
religion because of the hypocrites and snakes he met in the church. Joy brought him back. And little did he know
as he was writing it, that his friend and proof reader, Joy Davidman, would a
few years later become his wife, adding to even more surprising Joy.
John knew that same surprising
joy, and he wanted his followers to know it too. And he told them simple concrete
things that we can do to live in right relationship with God and each
other. He tied it into our
livelihoods. Don’t hurt others, share
what you have and don’t get greedy.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it? And he
told them that he was not the messiah, that one was coming who makes him look
like an amateur in comparison. He was
right in that, for a very simple reason.
John was mired in the
wrath of God. Isaiah and Jesus were not; both saw God differently, acting in
love, God doing the comforting. God
doing the surprising. God bringing
Joy. Even to people like you and me,
struggling with our own moments of snake-like anger, even when we too know we
are hypocrites, preaching love one moment and raging the next, God is with us,
we are not alone. Thanks be to God for
this gift of good news of salvation and surprising joy for all of us! Amen.
December 10, 2024
Drop Your Burdens!
There’s an interesting book that came out in 2021. It’s called “First Nations Version - an
Indigenous Translation of the New Testament".
It uses cultural metaphors and language for the old biblical story that
we know very well. Jesus is called
“Creator Sets Free” and John is known as “Gift of Goodwill”. Their version of Luke 3 says, after all the
historical stuff about who was in power:
“It was during this time that Creator’s message came down
from above like a burden basket and rested on John. His message was for all to return to
Creator’s right ways of thinking and come to the river to perform the
purification ceremony to be released from their bad hearts and broken ways. John was like a voice howling in the desert,
‘clear the pathways! Make a straight path for the coming of the honored
one. Then all people will clearly see
the good road that sets them free.”
Wow, what different images these bring up. Being released from bad hearts and broken
ways to follow a good road sounds pretty enticing. All too often the old language that we are
used to, “Repent and turn away from your sins” sounds like an invitation to
browbeat ourselves with guilt, shame and blame, tell ourselves how awful we
are, and come to God groveling and embarrassed. Not at all appealing. That might have worked at one time, but most
people today recognize that guilt and shame do not grow healthy souls. Psychologists and counsellors do not spend
time insulting and bullying their clients into better behavior. It just doesn’t work! But being released from broken ways, who
wouldn’t like to be set free to walk along a better path? Sign me up for that!
How do we do that?
Now, this is not the time to go down to the river to pray and wander
into it up to your waist for a baptism.
Too cold these days for sure. But
it was curious that John’s message of repentance and redemption was described
as a burden basket. What is a burden
basket? Why is it mentioned as part of
this scripture on the second Sunday of Advent when we focus on peace?
Turns out the burden basket is known as a tool for building
peace. It was traditionally used by
women to gather firewood for their homes, and it was worn on their backs like a
backpack. When a woman got home, she
would hang it by her entranceway. The
women were only supposed to put as much wood in it that they could carry, so as
not to hurt themselves or burden themselves more than was healthy for them.
They hung their baskets outside their homes as a reminder
that their homes were sacred and they were to leave their burdens at the door
and not bring them inside. This was also
a metaphor for how they were to behave when they went to someone else’s home. Visitors would touch the baskets and remember
not to bring their burdens into someone else’s living space. They were not to add their burdens to their
hosts. If they were visiting with anger
or hurt, jealousy or fear, those feelings were to be set aside. One does not add one’s burdens and problems
to someone else without permission. One
deals with their own issues outside the sacred space first, and does what they
can to recognize and be responsible for dealing with their own loads. It’s
called accountability.
What a kind and peaceful way of living! What a way of to be responsible for and then
released from the things that weigh us down.
There is a time, of course, for asking for help, but knowing when that
time is, and who the appropriate person is to ask for help is also a way of
building peace. Laying down our
emotional burdens is a way of reminding us to purify our intentions and our
words and our actions. And be
accountable for our own burdens so they won’t hurt someone else.
What burdens would you put down if you had the chance? There’s so much to choose from. The world right now feels like it isn’t very
peaceful. South Korea is under martial
law one moment and then not the next.
I’m unsure if the ceasefire in the Middle East is a thing or is it off
again, Ukraine is still at war and North Korean soldiers are fighting for
Russia, and what’s happening in Syria? I don’t understand the Tariff thing with
Mexico and the States, and the whole situation in the world seems anything but
peaceful. We teeter between anxiety and
apathy, neither of which are healthy alternatives for us as humans or as a
society. Where is peace found in all
this fear?
People are lonely, people are anxious, people are struggling, people are hurting. They don’t know where to turn to and they don’t know that peace is possible. And maybe we don’t have control of what happens in the bigger world, but we can choose to commit to being bearers of peace. And only carry as much as we can manage. The rest gets left. Drop that burden. Right here, right now. In this burden basket we call Christ’s good news. Release our broken ways, our hurting hearts and our wounded path for the good path that purifies us so we can all walk the good road that leads to peace. Amen
November 26, 2024
Belonging to truth, freed from sin
Jesus
is amazing in John 18. He knew his
disciples wouldn’t fight to put him in power.
And he didn’t want that either.
What a contrast to what was happening in the states a month ago when
their national guard was preparing for riots and insurrections if Kamala Harris
had won. There was to be no civil war
enacted by the followers of Jesus, and Jesus never asked for that kind of
revolution.
Jesus
asked for a revolution of the heart and mind, but not a revolution of force and
violence. He was asking for a revolution
of attitude and intention. He was asking
for a revolution where we think about truth and compassion and empathy. He was asking for a rebellion against fear,
anger and entitlement. Where decisions
are made based on what is best for the wider community and not what is best for
my ego or power.
We
spend much of our time being stuck in anger, resentments, fears and
worries. It’s easy to lash out at others
instead of recognizing our own hurts that need healing. In our Christian tradition, it is known as
sin, and it produces much suffering and unhappiness. Jesus came to free us from that suffering, to
free us from sin. But that takes
teamwork, that needs our support and co-operation.
When
we live from a place of sin, we pretend we are doing better than we really
are. We pretend to others and ourselves
that we have it all together, that we are perfectly happy, or perfectly in
control. Some of us pretend that we are
completely helpless to deal with a terrible world that hates us, and we can
never do anything to improve our lives.
Some of us pretend that we have all the answers and people who don’t
listen to us deserve our righteous wrath.
Some of us spend all our time judging others so that we can ignore the
fact that we are judging ourselves mercilessly.
All these kinds of sins arise from us being unwilling or unable to see
ourselves as God sees us, imperfect creations that are loved and that are
invited to a radical revolution where fear is rejected, and love is accepted.
This
brokenness, this sinfulness is why we have a place for confession in our
worship. It is a time to tell ourselves
and God the truth of our imperfections.
Telling and admitting that kind of truth is hard. We don’t like to admit that we aren’t
perfect. We fear that we will be
targeted for bullying and abuse if we are honest about our shortcomings. The very thing we fear is the very thing that
sets us free!
Every
time we confess, it brings us a step closer to the realm of Jesus. Every time we say that we aren’t perfect, we
witness to the truth. Every time we ask
for help, we are hearing the voice of Jesus speaking truth to our hearts and
minds. When we belong to truth, we are
set free from sin. This truth is so
powerful, it is a major focus of recovery programs like AA and Al Anon, who
have it as Steps 4 and 5 in their path to recovery.
What
a contrast it is from what the world focusses on. There are many people like Pilate who are in
power and who are determined to stay in power.
That is not easy at the best of times, but people in power are often
afraid of losing that power. Pilate knew
what it took to get to power, lots of manipulation, political scheming,
spreading rumors, and using force to claw his way to the top. He didn’t say, “You’re fired”, he said,
“You’re dead”. And had the power to enforce it too. Quite often. Pilate was known as a brutal
commander, sent in to Jerusalem to keep the Pax Romana, by using a sword if
necessary. He had the power of life and
death over a whole city. Usually, he wasn’t afraid to use it either.
Jesus
stumped him. Jesus confused him. Here was a man, a leader who influenced
people by speaking truth to them. By treating them with respect. By respecting them. By caring about them. Everything he did to be a leader, an
influencer, was the exact opposite of what Pilate did. He invited respect, he did not command it or
demand it. He did not bully others into
treating him with respect. He did not
use shame or blame or guilt to manipulate them into giving him authority to be
the leader. He was a leader by attraction,
not enforcement.
Pilate
recognized Jesus to be so far outside his experience that he didn’t know how to
react. He was used to people who took
power by force. Jesus was confusing. His answers put the onus on Pilate to think
about what he was doing in a different way than what he was comfortable
doing. He didn’t want to think about
truth the way Jesus talked about truth.
He had lied and manipulated people to get where he was, and truth was
something he had long before abandoned in his lust for power. He didn’t want to think about truth. Truth was something that he was afraid
of. If this Jesus could become an
influencer of others, a leader of others, what did that say about Pilate’s
leadership? That it was cruel and
murderous. The truth was something to be
ignored, feared and dismissed.
It takes courage to tell
the truth and listen to the truth. It
takes courage follow Jesus. But the
great joy is this is why Jesus came into the world, to build a community of
truth and compassion that frees us from the pain of our sins large and
small. May we work together to build
that community of Jesus who has created and is creating, our judge and our
hope. God is with us, we are not alone,
thanks be to God!
November 21, 2024
Biblical Marriage?
Next time someone tells you that they believe in biblical marriage, ask them if they've read the first chapter of the first book of Samuel. Don't you just love this description of biblical marriage? Elkanah has two wives, Peninnah and Hannah. How's that working for him? Not at all well. His first wife was very fertile and brought Elkanah many children. It helps if we remember that in this time of surviving in a desert region, children were a man's labor force to generate wealth and a sustainable lifestyle. They were his pension plan, his RSP, his property insurance and his senior's citizen lodge. No pressure! Elkanah had enough children. by his first wife Peninnah that he felt secure financially for the future. And maybe that's why he had two wives. I assume that Hannah was the younger, prettier one, but it doesn't go into that much detail. Certainly it's similar to the Bookseller of Kabul, where he guts established as a successful businessman with his wife's help then gets another one.
Then the bullying begins, Peninnah nags and ridicules and intimidates Hannah until Hannah's self-esteem is in tatters. Elkanah tries to comfort Hannah but he never tells Peninnah to stop it. He might even add to Peninnah's fury by showing. Hannah's favoritism with meals. Her fridge is full of T-bone steaks while Peninnah gets ground beef. No wonder she bullied Hannah!
There were a whole bunch of terrible assumptions also impacting this story. Hannah's mental health centred around Hannah believing that her self-worth was tied to her fertility. Today many people still struggle with that, but Hannah's culture taught that women's duty was to the survival of the tribe. Her faith taught that God chose when to make women fertile and if she couldn't get pregnant with a male baby in that patriarchal society, God didn't love her. Bad assumption there. Eli, the priest, assumed that Hannah was drank when she prayed. This might seem like an odd assumption but St. Augustine thought that St. Ambrose was odd because he read silently, and in the 18th Century, the new fad of reading silently in bed at night was seen as scandalous and immoral! So Hannah, praying silently, was a real oddity in Eli's experience.
She had poured out her deep pain and anguish to God. Interestingly, her pain and anguish was not about the bullying, it was about her core wound, her sense of her own flaws, and her belief that God had judged her as "wicked" in this translation. How many of us take our deep insecurities, our personal flaws, our insecurities and fears to God? Roger and I recently took a workshop about trauma. It's so important to understand trauma because trauma is widespread in our world. And trauma often leads people to bully other people, they explode in rage, they yell or they look for ways to find control. Trauma can be any experience we've had that finds us out of control. It can be bullying, it can be natural disasters, it can be a car crash and so on, People who have a sense of being loved, or who have a safe Community, or who have a sense of connection to God through prayers and spiritual practices, are much more resilient to the trials we all face in our lives.
Hannah takes her deep pain to the temple. She prays. She talks to both God and her priest. She goes deep. This is no "how about them Oilers" conversation between her and God. And despite Eli scolding her and judging her, Hannah is able to talk to him and explain herself. She has the courage to speak her truth to Eli, and her prayers are answered.
Many of us live with trauma or fear or guilt in a way that causes problems in how we relate to others and to God. And while it may seem better to keep our trauma to ourselves, it's not how God heals, God works through us and others by the Spirit and when we bring our deep pain to God, healing begins.
Yesterday, we had a workshop to heal some of our fears and concerns around church. We talked about why we do church. This is a tough question and we practiced going deep. We did that by asking why. Just as Elkanah asked Hannah, "Why are you crying, why won't you eat, why are you so upset," we asked each other "why are you here, why do you keep coming back?" Just like Hannah, we didn't waste time blaming others, we dug deep into our personal stories and the difference the United Church has made in our lives. This is what we found at Barrhead United together:
Church helps us with our emotional stability, it’s a place where we are accepted and included. It gives us a focus for the week, it gives a save inclusive space where we find respect for diversity, where we find a community of love that focusses on the spiritual in thoughtful ways.
That’s what Hannah found when she went to her temple too, and it empowered her to name her deepest pain and find healing and comfort for her life. May we continue to have Hannah's courage, tenacity & spirituality to grow our faith and our church. Amen.
November 12, 2024
Curiosity over Criticism
This past week people have been going through a rollercoaster of emotions as we process what happened in a different country. This is probably the only time where someone else’s politics have led me to the brink of preaching a sermon that is peppered with F- bombs! For those people who believe that women deserve to be treated with respect and equality, for those who believe that no ethnic group deserves to be called garbage or accused of stealing and eating pets, for those who believe that joking about putting women in front of a firing squad because of a difference of opinion, for those who believe that immigrants are humans not problems to be returned en-masse to countries that may abuse them, for those who know that 2sLGTBQIA+ people are not choosing an alternative lifestyle, Tuesday was a day of fear for many. It felt that all our work towards a society based on human rights for all, for respect and dignity, had been wasted. And many people worry that the same political tactics that worked in the states will work here in Canada as it already has in Alberta. Tactics of focusing on fear and scarcity and how things aren’t the way we think they should be. Tactics of talking about how hard done by we are, how the future is uncertain, inflation is scary, jobs are threatened, and let’s target the most vulnerable people for our fear and wrath. Those unnamed and unknown others, you know, ‘those people’, them, they, that we tell stories about to prove that the world is in danger and they are the ones at fault.
It deflects people’s attention away from harder conversations that some politicians are uncomfortable with. Harder conversations because they are complex and address issues that have no clear solutions. Why talk about the war in Ukraine or climate change when I worry about paying my rent? Why talk about gender equality or racism when it’s easier to talk about how dangerous the homeless are? Why talk about the state of education when I can’t go buy a bag of groceries for under $100 the way I used to?
And then there’s healthcare. Last week we had 591 cases of Covid reported in Alberta, 313 of them taking up valuable hospital beds and doctor and nurse time. 15 patients are in ICU, and 4 people died last week from Covid. Since August we have had 4,462 covid cases, and 119 people died. Athabasca Hospital declared a Covid outbreak on one unit on Oct. 17, 2024. Four days later, Northern Lights Regional Hospital in Fort McMurray also had an outbreak. On the bright side, both outbreaks have cleared, and about 20% of Albertans have gotten their Covid booster shots this month. But it was hard to find these stats. It was hard to find out how many hospital beds were being used for Covid patients when they could have been used for other medical situations. The statistics were buried in the Alberta HealthCare website. Shouldn’t this be something we know about and hear in the news?
We talk about politics the day before Remembrance Day because it was fear and scarcity and inflation that Hitler used to get elected in Germany. It was that kind of rhetoric of “Us vs Them” that he used to set up his internment camps where millions of Jews, thousands of LGBTQ individuals, the physically and mentally disabled, Roma (gypsies), Poles and other Slavic peoples, Jehovah’s Witnesses, priests, clergy and members of political opposition groups were experimented on and murdered. Nazis first practiced involuntary euthanasia on hospital patients with mental and physical disabilities, people that they decided did not make a valuable contribution to society. This was ‘us vs them’ rhetoric and justified for a variety of reasons. When we say, “Lest we forget” tomorrow, let us not say it glibly. Let us remember why Canadians and allies went overseas to kill other human beings. They went to fight totalitarian governments. They went to fight racists. They went to fight people who believed in dehumanizing those who didn’t have the same ethnic roots as they did. They went to stop a power-hungry megalomaniac who thought his ideas of racial purity could justify brainwashing and euthanasia. They went to stop this kind of thinking and this kind of politics. This “us vs them” thinking.
Jesus rejected “us vs them” thinking. Jesus rejected racism and assumptions of superiority. Jesus rejected snobbish attitudes that suggested some people should have the privilege of power over other people. But Jesus didn’t just point his fingers at the religious and political elites of his day. Jesus was preaching to us! We think “Us vs them” too! Them republicans, them Americans, them racists, them homophobes. Jesus rejected it all. Jesus challenged our tendency to think that we are right and people who think differently than us are wrong. Jesus rejected our own addiction to power and control. Jesus rejected our tendency to shame, blame and judge others. We find it easy to go about fixing, saving, advising and correcting others. Jesus rejected that too.
“You have heard it said, 'Love your neighbor-but hate your enemy.' But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for your persecutors. This will prove that you are children of God. If you remember that your sister or brother has a grudge against you, leave church at once and go to reconciled with them.”
How do we love our enemies? How do we reconcile with people we have a grudge against? By being humble! We have got to stop thinking “we” know all the answers, and “they” are wrong, stupid or evil. That’s hard, I know. Building trust starts by being curious first and foremost. By wondering why they have the opinions they do. By learning how to not overreact to their anger, which for many of us takes time, practice and counselling from professionals. By listening to them without judgement, which I know is hard. By taking care of yourself when it’s too hard and do your own humble healing.
Tomorrow we will hear lots of speeches about “Lest we forget”, a reminder that people died so we can live in peace. But Peace doesn’t come easily. And it doesn’t come if we instinctively react with fear and anger. Curiosity and humbleness will help us understand why the politics of our time seem so ugly. Curiosity and compassion and empathy are the tools to help us prevent future totalitarian states in our country. Some of us are able to roll up our sleeves and listen deeply to those who have opinions different than our own. Some of us need to take care of ourselves and heal our own deep wounds. Some of us can step up and speak up. But first and foremost, let us never forget that Jesus, the prince of peace, calls us to choose the way of curious compassion above fear. Every day! Amen.